Signs You Should or Should Not Marry Your Romantic Partner
How do you know whether someone is marriage material? Can you determine whether they will be a loving and faithful partner forever? There are some ways you can tell whether or not you are in a relationship that is built to last. By recognizing the qualities of a good marriage and the personality of the individual you're with right now, you can tell if your romantic partner has what it takes to build a lasting relationship.
Now, we are going to delve more deeply into the elements of what makes a significant other right for their partner. Using this knowledge, you'll be more than capable of determining if your relationship has a future or not.
How to understand your significant other is right for you?
You have wondered, "Is she the one?" Now, it's time to learn the signs of what you should look for in a partner that is going to be good for you. These signs of chemistry between a man and woman are incredibly useful to notice, so consider them to learn if your partner is right for you.
Observe how you deal with conflicts
First and foremost, you have to look at how you deal with conflicts. Too many people fail to realize the truth of all arguments: it is about you and your partner being against the problem and not you and your partner against each other. You should find calm, collected ways to deal with conflicts that are not abusive or bring up old fights.
Evaluate your feelings with your head
Another way to tell if your partner is a good match for you is if they evaluate their feelings rationally. When they are angry, does your partner lash out? Are they very jealous of you? If they are feeling these things and you notice, do they shut you down or work to investigate these feelings with you? They should allow you to understand their way of thinking so you can rationally approach these issues.
Decide whether you could be good friends
A romantic relationship is less about the spicy romance and more about the content of the friendship as time goes on. Will you and your partner still get along with each other years from now? How can you tell if that is the case? For one thing, you will have shared hobbies that you like to participate in with each other. You share interests and have the same goals and desires. That way, you and your partner are constantly seeking the next shared adventure. Sure, you can do some activities alone, but much of the time, you and your partner are together with each other!
Define areas where you can compromise
No couple is without conflict. You might want to go out to the bar every Monday to watch a sports game, and your future wife might not like that. Can you find a way to compromise that makes you both happy? Perhaps you only stay out until a certain time or only go out twice a month. If your partner says it is their way or the highway, it's probably a sign that they are not willing to compromise and meet your needs. This is a crucial part of relationship longevity; your relationship either has it, or it doesn't.
Signs You Should Marry Your Romantic Partner
Now that you understand if your partner is a good match for you, it's time to take a closer look at the characteristics of a successful marriage by examining the features of a good relationship. The elements that we list here are all signs that you and your partner would make a strong couple. If you can go through this list and positively identify that your relationship has these qualities, you should marry him or her.
You can communicate clearly and efficiently
The very first sign that you and your partner are a good match is that you can communicate clearly. Too many couples are practically speaking different languages with one another. Good communication happens when the two people can interact in a way where they take into consideration the needs of the other person. Do you feel comfortable telling your partner exactly what you want or need? If not, then marriage might not be for you. If you feel safe and loved when you say, "I need this" or "I want you to do that," then the relationship is in a good spot.
Your partner remains calm in emotionally intense situations
There will be times when you are in serious and volatile situations with your partner. How do they handle the stress? A good partner will be able to hold back their feelings and remain calm no matter how bad they feel inside. A partner that is not good is going to have emotional outbursts that become emotional or physically intense or violent. If your waiter dropped a glass of water on them, how would your significant other react? If they would be upset but just wipe it up and deal with the problem, then that's a good sign. If they are blustery, angry, and screaming, then that could be a sign of bad things to come, and it's a reason you might not last as a couple.
You are not trying to change a person
Do you look at your partner as someone perfect the way they are or someone that needs to be molded into the perfect partner? If you said the former, then you're in a good spot. You should not count on your partner changing or transforming through marriage to be the match you need them to be.
You both are ready to forgive and apologize
Another thing you need to look for in a good partner is their willingness to put issues behind them. Of course, there will always be some things that you can never forgive a person for doing. Short of that, you should have a romantic partner that is eager to forgive you for your shortcomings and vice versa. Also, whoever recognizes that what they did and said was wrong should be the first to apologize, not you all the time!
Your significant other is supportive even when you are at odds
Just because you and your romantic partner are having a tiff doesn't mean you should stop supporting or loving each other. That means a good partner should be supportive of you even when you're in the middle of an argument. You should never stop loving your partner any less!
Your partner is not intimidated by your success
Men are raised to have a desire to be the more successful partner in a relationship. While that can lead to some healthy competition, you have to be on the lookout for unhealthy expressions of this jealousy of your success. A good partner will celebrate the fact that you are both so successful because you work together as a team. A bad partner will act rude, be jealous, and might even demand you to become less successful by leaving your position or not working altogether. If your partner revels in you having a more prestigious job or making more money, then you've probably found a keeper!
You make plans for the future together
Lastly, your partner should make plans for the future. If they are unwilling to commit to anything long-term, then you have a problem on your hands. You both should have a plan for jobs, houses, children, and anything else that you want in life. You should plan these things together, too. If your partner has frequent conversations about your future with lots of specific details, they are the person you really need to marry because they're mature enough and ready to deal with the trials along the way!
These things should all be present in a relationship that has aspirations to lead to marriage. There is time to work on them if your partner is not perfect, though.
When you should not get married
How do you know you're marrying the right person? We have already shown you many different ways to tell if your partner will be a good match for you. What should you be on the lookout for on the negative side? What are the signs that you and your significant other will not last? Here is a brief overview of some elements of your relationship that you should not use as a justification to get married. Beware of thinking in the following ways because it will probably not end well for you.
You just don't want to be alone
A lot of people start feeling lonely when they get past what they think is "marrying age." Men and women are both susceptible to feeling the desire to settle down with someone in their 30s and 40s. Yet, forcing a relationship with the sole motivation of not being alone will not end well. Healthy, vibrant relationships don't last on a whim. They are built over time with love, caring, and a lot in common between the two people. With that in mind, you have to consider why you want to get married to someone at all. If the biggest reason is to have someone to be together with, then the chances are you should re-evaluate the relationship.
It is time to get married and have kids
Building off the previous idea of not wanting to be alone due to the encroachment of age, it's important to remember that some people want to get married and have children before a certain age. Since there is a biological clock for people that want to make their own children, some people will feel the desire to settle down with someone to get married and start having kids before it's too late. Unfortunately, the previous generations' high divorce rates meant that many children grew up in a single-parent household because the relationship was not strong enough to last. Think about that before you decide that you have to settle down and have kids. You are making decisions that will impact the lives of you and everyone around you!
You think that marriage will solve problems in your relationships
When we go through a natural progression of a relationship, the advancements will make us take a step back from the day-to-day problems and marvel at the love we have. That is why the time after the wedding is called the honeymoon phase. No problems can faze you and your partner at that time. However, what many people don't realize is that those problems are still waiting for you in the future—all you did was postpone the inevitable fights. Marriage won't solve your problems; it'll end in a messy, expensive divorce.
You want to prove something to people around you
Some people think they have to get married to show other people they are not who they seem. That is no reason to get married. You should not try to prove anything to a romantic partner or your family. Marry someone that you love.
When you are considering the reasons that marriages fail, it's often because people are not actually set up for success. They use the aforementioned reasons to justify their marriage and end up in a bad situation. Don't be one of them!
Now that you know how to recognize if you are in a good relationship, you should take stock of what you have. Your partner might not be absolutely perfect according to the guidelines that we've laid out, but they should not have any of the negative elements that we've mentioned. Your partner should be loving, share your burdens, and have the desire to be a better person with you than without you. Don't feel pressured to be married based on age; people find their right partner at all ages!