So you like a girl. But the question that is bugging you is, Is she single or not? There is only one way to know for sure – ask her. And we are going to tell you exactly how to go about it. Sometimes it is good to ask a direct question. Some girls would like that, and also the fact that you are practically advertising that you are interested in her. But then again, some girls will not like a direct question. If that is the case, you can put it into an indirect question in an innocent way. Make it sound like it came up randomly in general conversation. Another way is to say that her boyfriend really must be like a specific quality for her. In this situation, if she does not have a boyfriend, she will come right out and tell you so. Yet another way is to tell her you would love to get together again soon. If she has a boyfriend, this is where she will say it.
So you like this girl and find out that she has a boyfriend. And you still want to go ahead and flirt with her. Well, it is a really easy move if you know how to do it.
If you take care to notice the signals a girl is sending your way, you could know for sure that she is taking an interest in you. Body language is very expressive – it tells us a lot of things that remain otherwise unsaid. But for this to succeed, you need to observe closely. For example, see if she blushes when you are near her or close to her. She will also be more comfortable around you. Her being in her comfort zone at all times is very important for the relationship to work. You might find that her friends always try to leave you alone with her. This is a sure sign that she has told them she is interested in you. If she likes you, she will give you her singular attention every minute you spend together. She might even look at you more than she looks at others when you are in a group. In short, women are different from each other as are all people. They have different kinds of personalities. Naturally, they will express their liking to you in different ways.
Consider this situation: you are serious about the relationship, but she is not. She might be only toying with you. Could that be the case? Learn about the warning signs that will tell you if a girl is not that much into you, and if she is keeping her options open. See if she switches off and seems uninterested when you start to speak about your day or your experience. She never actually listens to you. She says many things, but never carries them out to completion. All her big plans are actually nothing but air, intentionally. You like to talk about the future, but she does not. The two of you in the future together does not appeal to her. You have to adjust to her schedule every time you go out. You never get to decide the details. She make you feel less than and doubt your self-worth with her words. She does not boost your confidence. Your intimacy with her feels on and off. She is never steady with her support and intimacy. Sometimes you feel she is close to you, and sometimes she feels distant.
If a girl has a naturally flirtatious nature it will be difficult for you to understand if she wants a relationship with you. For all you know, she might simply be flirting and not mean anything more. On the other hand, a girl of a reserved nature may not flirt much with you even if she wants a relationship. So how do you get to know for sure? The signs are subtle, no doubt, but they are surely there. If you know the signs you will be able to tell if a girl is ready to enter into a relationship with you. She will be happy to spend time with you and want to do that frequently. She will start a conversation and talk more when she is with you than when she is with friends. She will always be in touch and contact you often. She may touch you on the arm or shoulder – that is a sign too. If she has told her friends that she wants a relationship with you, they might start dropping hints, so keep alert.
If you are scared at the thought of letting that special girl know that you like her, you are not alone. A lot of guys are like you in this regard. The best way is to just have a heart to heart talk with her. Tell her what is on your mind and how you feel about her. Sharing your thoughts, fears and emotions may seem difficult, but it is a great way to start a relationship. Pay her a lot of genuine and sincere compliments. Keeping silent leads to a lack of communication and distance between the two of you. Be confident and calm when you share your feelings with her. That will tell her that you are in control of your emotions and that you know what you are doing. Girls find self-assured men immensely attractive. So that is the image you would want to project.
Are you shy around girls, and cannot ask a girl out, however much you want to? If this is the case, don’t worry. We have got some good advice here that will help you ask your special girl out and that too, with great success. Work on your posture. You should look self -confident and calm, assured. Dress well. And when we say that, we mean clean and classy, it’s not necessary that you wear flashy clothes to impress a girl. Keep eye contact with her when you ask her out, and this will assure her that you mean it, and that you are serious. If she smiles, then all is going well for you. Believe that it’s not a big deal to ask a girl out, and you will feel more confident. Start with a compliment, and you will find she is more receptive to you. Then you can ask if she wants to go out with you, safely and with success.